tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879566399062659008.post3601294866116025346..comments2014-07-30T13:04:55.459-07:00Comments on the MOTHER FRONT: Motherwork as an oppressive stateAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15888477246318264360noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879566399062659008.post-37910150743859162952010-08-30T08:47:50.920-07:002010-08-30T08:47:50.920-07:00Yes mama! I twinkle. Although I haven't been...Yes mama! I twinkle. Although I haven't been a stay-at-home mom, my partner & I both have worked part-time so that we could try to equally parent. But guess what? It's not equal. I brought Ramona with me to work everyday from age 4 days to age 6 months, so we could nurse. I was never more than 1 room away from her until she was 4 months old. I've been nursing on demand for 24 months and 1 day. <br /><br />Things have mellowed out a ton in the last 6 months, but for that first year and a half, I was absolutely honest when people asked me how things were. It made me sound like a terrible, intolerant, impatient mom, which is far from the truth. I was being an honest mom, and being authentic about the experience of motherwork.<br /><br />I have one friend in particular who would always respond with comments like, "Huh...I've never felt that way with my babies. They must not be very difficult kids," or "Wow, I've never felt like my time was undervalued, my kiddos just love their mama so much." Which is a total dismissal of my honesty, and in reality, is a load of crap. Is she just that programmed that she has to be the perfect mom, that she really doesn't notice all the fucked up parts of motherwork?<br /><br />Raising babies shows you the entire world in a brand new light, but that light isn't all a positive one--mostly, but not all. Raising babies lets you in on a whole new experience of oppression that you never knew before. Thankgully, babies are also really cute.DoulaHarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08622072927594676635noreply@blogger.com